tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post5547871831876233345..comments2024-01-12T00:35:16.941+01:00Comments on French Leave: It happened on the Ile de Re......A French Love Storythe fly in the webhttp://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comBlogger28125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-28456227801493672342010-10-08T13:43:30.987+02:002010-10-08T13:43:30.987+02:00Clippy Mat, damn right she should...but it is the ...Clippy Mat, damn right she should...but it is the French mentality to knuckle under.<br />Not mine...or yours!the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-82547327253077479122010-10-08T13:39:02.023+02:002010-10-08T13:39:02.023+02:00So sad. :-(
I'm sorry that I can't be too ...So sad. :-(<br />I'm sorry that I can't be too sympathetic towards her tho'... she should have held on for dear life to what she knew to be rightfully hers. I would not have given it up so easily. <br />but that's me...<br />;-)Clippy Mathttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15922234265229327474noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-1814178708240063392010-10-05T20:47:44.792+02:002010-10-05T20:47:44.792+02:00David McGrievy, I sometimes think you can be grate...David McGrievy, I sometimes think you can be grateful when the aggro only starts after the death...<br />You're right about getting your will straight...make sure it goes to the right person.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-51592186614559004592010-10-05T20:33:15.473+02:002010-10-05T20:33:15.473+02:00With a few exceptions, it has been my experience t...With a few exceptions, it has been my experience that people always get ugly over an estate and that those who actually cared for the dying benefit the least monetarily.<br />Entitled relatives will gladly pick over the bones as the grieving survivor walks away with dignity.<br />Let this be a lesson to us all, revise your will, today.<br />X David, NYCAnonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-79403166000575984782010-10-04T04:12:39.664+02:002010-10-04T04:12:39.664+02:00You're exactly right regarding the "extra...You're exactly right regarding the "extra protein," Fly...<br /><br />I should probably translate cafard, but most people already surmise...ehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11376645220662546020noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-16107959379375795412010-10-03T16:43:44.233+02:002010-10-03T16:43:44.233+02:00ile de re...plenty of practice, that's what, w...ile de re...plenty of practice, that's what, where it comes to perfidy!the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-5253079245367980592010-10-03T09:52:46.193+02:002010-10-03T09:52:46.193+02:00Real nice story, well written. Spotting perfidy pe...Real nice story, well written. Spotting perfidy perfectlyile de rehttp://www.ilere.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-9766825967393039502010-10-02T20:16:11.220+02:002010-10-02T20:16:11.220+02:00Amy, that's how it is in France...the idyll en...Amy, that's how it is in France...the idyll ends in a slap.<br />O.K. the children of the first relationship don't like a 'replacement'...but there's no need to be uncivilised...except that deaths in a family seem almost inevitably to show the worst part of peoples' characters.<br /><br />As to progress...all the hopes people had that Sarkozy would change things have proved illusory...so what now?the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-14283435107494062192010-10-02T20:05:42.761+02:002010-10-02T20:05:42.761+02:00I was reading thinking, "That Fly is a romant...I was reading thinking, "That Fly is a romantic underneath it all", then the ending like a slap. No matter what age, children can have a hard time accepting a parent's new partner - how sad that the laws encourage them to stay selfish. Sigh - the more I learn of the way things go around here, the more I understand why the place can't progress.Amyhttp://www.amyrigby.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-75513302382536425432010-10-02T00:19:07.391+02:002010-10-02T00:19:07.391+02:00Mark in Mayenne, yes I'm sure that he could ha...Mark in Mayenne, yes I'm sure that he could have done...I suppose it just didn't cross his mind.<br /><br />I think the daughter called with the van in order to take advantage of Jeanne while she was in the first shock of his death.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-61254144207560830332010-10-01T16:59:14.935+02:002010-10-01T16:59:14.935+02:00Just wondering, surely Jean had the right to give ...Just wondering, surely Jean had the right to give the books to Jeanne during his lifetime? I know that this does not always apply, nor to all one's worldly goods, but I imagine that it would in this situation? (I doubt the books had any intrinsic value)<br /><br />I'm just thinking firstly, that as Jean I would have given the books to Jeanne, and second that anyone who turned up at my door with a van the day after my beloved died would get sent away to telephone to make an appointment for next week. Cheek!Mark In Mayennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14987723233401368368noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-71244548486825834292010-10-01T08:02:23.448+02:002010-10-01T08:02:23.448+02:00Hi, nice blog & good post. You have beautifull...Hi, nice blog & good post. You have beautifully maintained it,Its really helpful for me, hope u have a wonderful day & awaiting for more new post. Keep Blogging!paris accommodationhttp://www.holiday-velvet.com/parisnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-46445427183952399112010-09-30T20:33:41.533+02:002010-09-30T20:33:41.533+02:00Pueblo girl, it takes a lot to get through the car...Pueblo girl, it takes a lot to get through the carapace of self satisfied types like her, but I'll be hoping along with you.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-29062072601612207992010-09-30T20:20:59.947+02:002010-09-30T20:20:59.947+02:00I hope the daughter runs across her own kind throu...I hope the daughter runs across her own kind throughout her life, especially in moments of pain.Pueblo girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04904318623281033442noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-17194535774972415902010-09-30T18:28:31.223+02:002010-09-30T18:28:31.223+02:00Zuleme, if these people put as much effort into th...Zuleme, if these people put as much effort into their own businesses as they do into robbing others they would be rich without the need to steal and lie.<br />I'd be surreptitious in the same circumstances, too!the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-37981908276065426942010-09-30T18:05:47.385+02:002010-09-30T18:05:47.385+02:00it is amazing how mean people can be. We have a fa...it is amazing how mean people can be. We have a family member removing all of my inlaws resources. The schemes are mind boggling. We have not been able to stop it.<br />I have a friend who raised a lot of money, built and ran an animal shelter. It was a wonderful warm, spotlessly clean, hopeful place. I was there when the state inspector came by and said it was the best in our state. The money mostly came from one of her friends who was wealthy. After a few years the board of directors fired my friend and proceeded to ruin the place's finances.<br /><br />I had bought as a gift, 3 large scrapbooks which my mother spent hours organizing years of clippings and pasting them neatly in. After the firing, my friend was devastated and was upset that she had forgotten the books, which held the record of all her hard work.<br />I went in, and when no one was looking, retrieved the books. At the time, I was paid for web and photo work for the shelter. I was fired for taking the shelter's books "surreptitiously".<br />I've loved that word ever since.Sharyn Ekberghhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/11987304898246173619noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-60838295902811717612010-09-30T17:16:51.990+02:002010-09-30T17:16:51.990+02:00Sarah, I did ask her about keeping the book and sh...Sarah, I did ask her about keeping the book and she just said that that was how the law was and there was nothing she could do about it.<br />His children hadn't seemed to resent her while she was looking after their father, she said ...no, I thought, I just bet not....<br /><br />He was a lovely man and told me so much about how politics works in the big town scene - always with a dry smile as he described the manoeuvrings and back scratchings, but most of all he made Jeanne really happy.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-9947626211075260952010-09-30T17:11:23.004+02:002010-09-30T17:11:23.004+02:00What a lovely story, Fly. Shame it had such an unf...What a lovely story, Fly. Shame it had such an unfortunate ending, shame that the daughter didn't acknowledge the book as her father's gift to Jeanne, and shame that Jeanne couldn't get to keep a precious keepsake. <br /><br />As you say, it's mean-minded and petty.Sarahhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/13195684182481935384noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-1644728904158604922010-09-30T14:49:44.559+02:002010-09-30T14:49:44.559+02:00nodamnblog, it is the mean minded spirit of it tha...nodamnblog, it is the mean minded spirit of it that sickens me....as you say, legal is one thing, right is another.<br /><br />Wills do bring out the worst in people.<br />As do powers of attorney in unscrupulous hands.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-51285929531984972932010-09-30T14:04:15.888+02:002010-09-30T14:04:15.888+02:00What a truly tragic story, and how beautifully tol...What a truly tragic story, and how beautifully told, Fly. One of your best ever, I think. At least the vile daughter couldn't take away Jeanne's memories of her husband.<br /><br />Many years ago we were involved in dealing with wills, and were totally amazed at what happened the moment a person took their last breath - or in some cases even before. The phone never stopped ringing with the dear near ones wanting to know: Is there a will? How much do we get? How soon can we have it? One relative broke into the house of the deceased and removed every item in it before any other relatives could get there. <br /><br />My own relatives stole my father's legacy to my children.<br /><br />But it's one thing to snatch furniture and money, completely beyond belief to take irreplaceable sentimental items. <br /><br />And being legal doesn't make something right. :(Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-4872653320811177682010-09-30T13:09:55.565+02:002010-09-30T13:09:55.565+02:00e, to me, the worst thing was that she accepted it...e, to me, the worst thing was that she accepted it all with resignation and it summed up a lot about the differences in French and British attitudes. <br />In law, the daughter was right....but someone British would never have just let her take the photographs and the journal...they would have disappeared. But even a feisty woman like Jeanne let them go...because that was the law.<br /><br />Mark in Mayenne, well I'm damn sure I would have done, but, as I said to e above this submission, resignation, whatever one calls it, to law was characteristic of people of her generation.<br /><br />Ayak, yes, a sad grubby ending, I'm afraid.<br /><br />Steve, no all too common. <br />Like e I knew a lawyer who specialised in contested wills and he said the behaviour of those involved would make your hair curl.<br /><br /><br />Diane, the mean mindedness of it shocked me....and to hear Jeanne explaining to me that <br />the daughter had the right to act as she did was heartbreaking.the fly in the webhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04563871975125538755noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-12463384388581381392010-09-30T10:42:21.335+02:002010-09-30T10:42:21.335+02:00Such a lovely story but with not the happiest of e...Such a lovely story but with not the happiest of endings. Why are there not more thoughtful people in this world. Inheritance's cause so much sadness and bickering. DianeDianehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14782670749466305626noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-4586577417322961992010-09-30T10:18:20.108+02:002010-09-30T10:18:20.108+02:00So sad that the loving, patient, gently generous s...So sad that the loving, patient, gently generous spirit of the father was not passed on to the children. I suspect that, alas, that is not just a French tale...Stevehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/02133900289384226725noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-48418312223296301712010-09-30T08:26:10.975+02:002010-09-30T08:26:10.975+02:00Oh what a sad ending...a beautifully told story Fl...Oh what a sad ending...a beautifully told story Fly xxAyakhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/16903896106779269050noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-6021650718999668529.post-2908260390295981922010-09-30T08:19:31.527+02:002010-09-30T08:19:31.527+02:00Money seems to bring out the worst in people. But...Money seems to bring out the worst in people. But couldn't she have hidden or 'lost' the books?Mark In Mayennehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/14987723233401368368noreply@blogger.com